"How to get rid of a habit of thinking in the middle while speaking?"

Wise says, "Think before you speak", and that's true. But what if one starts thinking in between his speech? Now that's crazy, it's something to be considered serious. Do you think alot? Think while you are talking, get puzzled? Feel distracted? Out of focus? Forgets facts and figures? Forget keys? Forgets your valet or purse? If that's the case with you, your problem is over.

 

At the very start, start thinking of Allah; being the best planner, His whole system, the nature of Homo-sapein, life right now you owes while the one you will have after death. What it will do, it will relax your mind, blessing you inner comfort and peace, it will minimize even the giant worries of you because of which you face artificial and unwanted pauses in your speech.

The main problem in speaking fluently is due to few main reasons. It may be lack of proper attention and care given to the child in childhood, may be lack of interest of his father while dealing with him; being struck in nature and less friendly, or it may be due to inefficient basic education in kids at primary level. Steadily those kind of kids grow up with a fear of flaws in mind, always trying to unleash something but fails. Similarly, the world of peers around them and environment also play a keen role in promoting the pre-habit. What happens next is: they come out to be the laziest of all when it comes to talking fluently and without pauses. By comparing urban with rural kids makes the concept much broader as all of us notice an immense attitude difference in their way of approach to life.

In order to cope it felicitously, some capsules of wisdom are shared which will improve this drawback to a huge extent. Before that, lemme ask you few questions; Are you having this flaw in your personality? Are you a witness of it in areas surrounding you? Do you get impress of those who talk like they're drinking a glass of their favorite pulpy juice? Have you ever been rejected by your close friends or opposite sex just because you can't talk properly? Dragging you back to school, do you ever wished to debate and deliver a speech on stage but never had any chance just because you were lacking the confidence for that or being rejected by senors. Moreover, do you ever simply unable to score high in an interview or scored five out of ten in a presentation?

If that is the case with you, i suggest you to make a decision now. The most important decision of your life, the act which will change the whole approach of yours to life. You won't get discouraged anymore. You'll never feel down to earth atleast not more in this phase of life. Are you ready for that? Hold on!
The first thing you have to do is feel good inside, believe in you. Accept and love the way you are. Investigate yourself, ask questions from you; find your hidden ability, the thing which you are best at, as every human being got a unique quality inside in him, all you have to do is to explore that. After you done with that part, try your initials in that specific quality of yours. No one can over attack you, nobody can even think to cross you for you are the best in that, the best of the bestie.

Apropos, start practicing your desired goal. The goal is, you have to overcome that trauma in you that you can't speak fluently. For that, the amazing technique i want to put at your palm is, 'start mirror talking'. Sounding crazy no? Well, if you dip in the pages of history, you realize later that all those who remained the best orator and debater of the World, first started it from their own. In hand, i can share you my own experiences of life. Like whenever i was a kid, i always dream to deliver a speech in school, same for college, even i rushed to the mosque in 'ishaa' for more than couple times to perform 'Azaan'; by holding a religious course book 'Taleem-Ul-Islam' in hand as i hadn't that in mind that time orally. It was my 5th grade. I was quite enthusiastic regarding religion but was unable to practice 'em appropriately. The most stupid thing which happened, whenever i went there was, i, instead of pressing the loudspeaker button, stepped back and ran. Similarly in childhood i always had a crush upon those who were best at speaking. But what that happened in my case, i suffered only, disappointed only. There existed no one to guide or support me up. But for you, stop worrying any more, i am going to hold you up, make you rise, support and motivate you, won't let you feel disappointed. Just do one thing; relax you mind, amazing things awaiting you downside.

What i did my dear, i started talking to myself, i always use to stand infront of mirror and ask questions from myself, i.e who i am? What are my weaknesses? What are my strengths? Why i cant speak? What's the main purpose of being on this planet? What if i bring this change in myself? What if that and many more. 

The next is, i made a friendship which nobody in the world would have ever faced, eager to know that? Wait a minute! I started 'Table-Friendship' (Wooahh! I discovered a new word and did it right now by unleashing it infornt of you people, be it's witness okay!). Elaborating that part, i finally convinced my mother to provide that specific table for my use; she wasn't miserable though; she was against this act of standing high upon a table, considering it an insult for the table. Well, the point is: i used to rush and stand up at the table every time i get free and speak, deliver stupid speeches to the neighbor kids, reading poems and doing it with quite an enthusiasm. It gave me courage too along with fluency.

Having this fluency edge, believe you me, it worked and that amazingly, not only i got rid of this 'Pause-thing', also i showed progress in many other important phases of life. Sharing my university experience, not only i participated in stage activities, i remained a best host in different mega events. For those who are concerned with scores, i must share; i scored cent percent whenever i came to presentations, my teachers know it more than anyone. Similarly in community, i loved to participate for social causes and humanitarian acts.

My last announcement is going to make you even more enthusiastic than i ever was. Even a native speaker would think twice to challenge my fluency in English.

The gist is: now, right now i would say, if hundreds of million people sitting infront of me, i don't care even. I won't make pauses in the middle anymore, i will speak and will speak it amazingly.

You want to excel in it? Repentance my beloved can be a handy worship, even it's one among the favorite most acts of humans Allah loves. Once achieved your inner satisfaction of conscience, you are never going to think in the middle of your speech, and being fresh-soul, while thoughts come before speaking will exist till the very last. You'll feel satisfied being inside, you brain; which being one of the most elastic rubbers i ever seen will broaden.
Last but not the least, the habit of recitation of the Holy Quran can prove the best remedy to cope up this issue.

It will flourish your personality with magnificent extemporal ideas and will make you a professional speaker at any platform. No more pauses-in-speech, no more wastage of opportunities.

Written by: Ikram Yousafzai